Disclaimer: I am aware Roman Polanski is problematic. This is in no way an endorsement of him as a person. My grandfather Marc Moise Szeftel died when I was five. I didn’t know that he was a Holocaust survivor until my late teens and my knowledge of his story comes almost entirely from a book…

Thinking a little about gaslighting this week and how it has affected my ability to communicate with others, as well as my self image and my beliefs about what I am capable of.  For eight and half years I was in an abusive relationship. This person was not my significant other but my employer. As…